What Is Happening?!

Let’s be honest: dating in 2025 hasn’t been for the faint of heart… or even sound minds. Sometimes, it feels like God, the universe, and every app developer got together and said, “Let’s spice things up for the girls — but not in the way they’re hoping.”

One minute, you’re swiping with the confidence of a woman who has healed, grown, prayed, journaled, and knows her worth.

And then next, you’re staring at a message from a grown man that says:

“Hey.”

Just… hey. No punctuation. No personality. Not even the basic courtesy of a second syllable.

And suddenly, you’re internally spiraling: Is this it? Am I supposed to build a relationship off this? Why did he swipe? Does he want to get to know me, or did his thumb slip? It’s exhausting. Truly.

Welcome to the digital dating jungle — also known as the apps.

Where else can you go from:

“You seem amazing 😇” to “So what are you doing right now 😈”…in five lines or less?

These are creatures you can find in the app forest:

✨ The Love Bombers

✨ The Ghosters

✨ Men Who Think Women Don’t Age

✨ The “Not Ready for Anything Serious” Guys (…but still want wifely behavior on demand)

✨ Gym Selfie Enthusiasts

✨ Men Who Haven’t Smiled in a Photo Since 2007

✨ The Young Ones Who Want an Older Woman Experience

✨ The Walking Red Flag who thinks sending a nude right out of the gate is “flirty”

And then — the newest additions to the species list:

✨ The Big Fish Holders & Deer Hunters. A grown man proudly holding a bass the size of a toddler or posing beside a deer as if submitting it for taxidermy review. It’s not our thing, gentlemen. We don’t want to date the fish. We don’t want to date the deer. And we definitely don’t want to admire your “kill shot” like it’s a Christmas card.

✨ The Serial-Killer-Angle Men. The camera is on the floor. They stare down at it—shadowed eyes. No smile. No explanation. Just giving full “true-crime documentary reenactment” energy. Sir… are you okay? Blink twice if you’re being held hostage by your own dating profile.

And then there are the in-person dates…rare, exotic, almost mythical. Thanks to the jungle we just went through, I don’t go on many.

But when I do?

They range from:

✨ Magical

✨ Awkward

✨ Unhinged

✨ And the ones where you feel God Himself whisper: “Daughter… get up. I did NOT send this one.”

But every so often, there’s a moment — a spark — a man who makes your stomach flip, your heart soften, and your mascara run (in the best way).

Most of the time, though? It’s just you, a stranger, a drink, and a quiet prayer: “Lord, please let him be normal.”

Still… I believe in it all because here’s the truth: I’m not dating for chaos. I’m dating because I still believe in love. In connection. In good men. In divine timing. In the possibility of something beautiful, even after everything I’ve been through.

Dating today is messy, unpredictable, hilarious, exhausting, cringey, ridiculous, hopeful, sacred, beautiful, chaotic, clarifying, and sometimes… magical. I’ve lived enough, laughed enough, cried enough, and prayed enough to know: you keep going — or you never find your person, and the beauty in all of it is that you will meet some of the most amazing people along the way, too. And honestly? Some days, I joke that God Himself will have to sit on the edge of my bed and tell me, “Hey girl, meet my friend… he’s the one,” before I willingly sign up for another first date. But if I put it in His hands, I trust He’ll do just that.

Let’s say I’ve gathered enough stories — from myself and brave women around me — to create an exciting project. The content, characters, and nicknames: from Fumble Fingers and Jenny Craig to Mr. Hardrock — the chaos… endless and hilariously funny. And I’m still doing my research. So stay tuned.

In the meantime, I pray that if you’re dating, you are having fun and finding the beauty in the chaos — because that’s what life is all about. And if you’re ever struggling or need someone to listen, remember: there’s always a seat at my table. There you’ll find an espresso martini, a few tears, probably some sarcasm, laughter, and lots of Jesus—never judgment. With faith and friendship, we’ll figure it out together.

Much Love and Blessings

Kim